Mothers are important. Both parents, a father and mother, are equally important, but a mother plays an important role in a child’s life at a very young age. Good mothers are needed more than ever. Our country, our society, is in desperate need of good mothers. Anyone can conceive and give birth, but we need good, dedicated, faithful women to take up the mantle of mother and raise a good generation of believers and people.
Good Mothers Are Becoming Harder To Find
Let me start this off by saying, there are plenty of wonderful, wonderful, dedicated, hardworking mothers and you are appreciated. And I appreciate mothers who are trying. I know there is no handbook and there is a lot of pressure. All mothers who are trying are appreciated and a blessing to this world.
That being said…
As little girls, many of us were raised in the era of girl power and were told we were perfect, to have fun, have a career, and then focus on a family much later in life. And many have followed that advice into their adulthood and it has caused an array of issues including generations of mothers who have unintentionally failed their families and children.
I know this sounds harsh, but please bare with me as this is not coming from a place of maliciousness, but concern for our society and our future.
We Weren’t Taught To Be Good Godly Women and Good Mothers
Many of us were not taught how to be women, wives, and mothers. We were taught to be shallow, catty, to have false femininity (hello make up and weight loss pills) and to compete with men making us more masculine (the irony considering women are constantly attacking masculinity), and causing hatred and disdain in many women who are miserable. They have become the oppressors that they claim they are fighting.
Women were told their worth is tied in their jobs, in sex, in material things because all those things are “liberating” and yet, women are more miserable now than before. So, what does this have to do with being a mother?
We have so many mothers who take this mindset into marriage and motherhood and it leaves a neglected and broken family which we see in our children who are falling behind in education, who cannot emotionally regulate themselves, and in the violence rising among children, not to mention the fact that we have more people than ever trying to harm our children. And fathers, you are also to blame, but I’ll get to you another time. This is about mothers.
Mothers Are Important, But God Comes First
If you are a Christian then you are a woman of God first. No one comes before God. That means you are taking time to spend time in God’s word. You are praying over your family. You are living the way God has called you to be. And that means submitting to God, submitting to your husband, and being a woman who raises up your family, and mentors those who need it.
Mothers Are Important, But Husbands and Wives Come Second
Then you are a wife. Your husband and you come after God. Not your children. And don’t give me that argument “if we are starving my kids are coming first” obviously you are going to protect those who cannot protect themselves. Don’t be obtuse. However, so many women make their children their personality and life. And that isn’t bad, but when you disrespect your husband, put your kids on a pedestal, and teach your children to disrespect your husband, and spoil them rotten without leading them, it’s a problem. So are hands off mothers who are neglecting important aspects of their children at an early and even late age. On the opposite end, we see mom being last in everything and being disrespected. That is also a problem. You are equal with your husband.
Not today’s standard of equal, but you are equal in the sense of God created you two to compliment each other.
Mothers Are Important, But Children Come Third
Your children come after God, and after you and your husband, but they come before everything else. That includes your job, that includes vacations, that includes partying. Your children should be your focus from the get go. A couple months when they are born is not enough. A child learns emotional regulation at a young age. And when you throw them into daycare and allow strangers and other children to raise them, they don’t learn what they need to learn. They need that nurturing love only a mother can give well into their preteens and early teens. Mom nurtures with love and dads love too, but his love is tougher and gets them ready for life.
It’s Okay To HAVE To Work, But If You’re Blessed Enough To Not Have To You Should Be With Your Kids
I’m not shaming those who HAVE to work. Some people HAVE to work to survive. And that’s okay. However, there are many who choose to work because they want new cars, vacations, big houses, and to live above their means. Your child should come above that. And in this day and age, we need mothers at home preparing their younger children for the life to come. We need mothers homeschooling and teaching children and socializing children so that they can have better lives. Homeschooled children have higher IQs, are happier, better adjusted, and are more mature compared to public school children who we’ve seen time over time are being neglected and falling further behind.
We Need Moms And Dads To Teach Children How To Be Men And Women
We need mothers who, hand in hand with fathers, will teach their children to be men and women so that their is no confusion later on. Little girls are little girls. They can be frilly or tom boys. But they are girls and God made them wonderful and special and they should behave like little girls with manners and gentleness. But they can still be part of the adventure. We need to raise little boys to be little boys. They are warriors, rough, masculine, meek, and little gentlemen. We don’t need to shame their masculinity but help cultivate it. Same with girls, we don’t shame their femininity, we cultivate it.
If You Want To See The World Change You Have To Raise Godly Men And Women
If you want violence at school to stop, if you want to see our younger generation work harder, to have less mental health issues, to create a strong life, then we need good and strong mothers to raise their children. We need women to focus on God, be a good wife, and a good mother.
Teach Your Children What They Should Expect From Their Spouse
And you may be asking, what does being a good wife have to do with being a good mother? You are teaching your child what to expect. If you are disrespectful to your husband, your daughters will likely follow in your footsteps and your son will learn that it is okay to be treated badly. Our children watch us and we have to set that example.
We want our kids to see that God is important, that husbands and wives are important, and that they (the kids) are important. That material things, while nice, do not ever come before family. That we will protect and teach them. It is our job to lead our children. It isn’t daycares job, teachers jobs, or the government, it is ours.
From The Womb We Start Affecting Our Children
Did you know the health and mental health of the expecting mother plays an impact in her child’s development? That is why good nutrition is so important during pregnancy for the brain to properly develop and so the baby can have good cognitive abilities later on.
A mother’s stress and her mental health can also affect the baby in the womb. There are studies that have shown that chronic stress and exposure to high-stress can impact the child’s development and can actually hinder their ability to tolerate stress as an adult.
We Play A Key Role In Emotional Development
Since mothers are the primary caregivers when children are young, they are the model for emotional behavior for their children. Women’s reactions, interactions, and expressions show their children how to manage emotions, understand emotions, and identify emotions.
For example, if a child is upset, a mother will comfort that child which helps them feel safe and sound. Which helps them in time regulate emotions on their own down the road.
Not to mention, having emotional stability creates a secure attachment which will help the child have better relationship skills, better self-esteem, and that child will have a lower risk for things like depression and anxiety.
We Play A Key Role In Social Development In Our Children
Mothers play an important role in shaping the social development in our children which allows them to interact, empathize, communicate, and even form relationships with others. Why is this? Mothers are the first ones who teach their babies and children about communication through verbal and non-verbal cues. They respond to the baby’s actions which encourages the child to interact back.
A baby coos and shakes a toy. The mother smiles and laughs which makes the baby laugh. It helps children express themselves and learn to interact with those around them.
As your baby grows, you help them understand more difficult emotions and how to appropriately express these feelings. You help guide them and teach them empathy and be aware of other peoples feelings.
Mothers Play An Important Role In Social Skills
Because mothers interact with their babies and toddlers so much, they learn social skills needed to interact with others. And even reprimands can teach important social skills. For example, one child takes a toy away from another. The mother says no, we share, and gives the other toy to the child who had it first. This may not be a fun lesson for the baby, but an important one.
There are also long term impacts as well. The social skills that children learn from mom can ultimately have lasting effects on their social development.
Children who learn kindness, communication skills, and empathy will have better relationships with others when they are older. Children who see mom handling conflict with respect and a serene nature will learn to treat conflict the same way. The opposite is also the same. The mom that is angry, disrespectful, and loud are teaching their children to deal with problems the same way.
Mothers Are Important In A Child’s Life
Mothers are important. You are important. Be in your child’s life. When you have kids, that should be your job. Being a stay at home mom is one of the biggest blessings in the world. When people are old and their health is failing, it isn’t the money and vacations or the want for more, it’s the regret that they didn’t spend more time with their kids or families. Be in your child’s life, be deliberate in their upbringing, and raise up strong Godly men and women!
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Mothers are important for a number of reasons? Why do you think they’re so important?
